The secret code
I watched an episode of the 1990s American sitcom Seinfeld called “The Secret Code.” Should spouses share each other’s passwords? I suspect many people - especially my Canadian acquaintances - would affirm it and think it’s normal for a married couple. I’m married, too, and here are some facts about my life.
I don’t share my passwords with anyone. Not the computer or online accounts. Not any of my four bank accounts. My spouse doesn’t know what I do online, who I communicate with electronically, what my social media activity is, how many bank accounts I have or what I do with them. Furthermore, I am similarly in the dark about her affairs.
My patner knows what my job is, but she doesn’t know exactly where I work each day (each day I work at a different place), what route I use to go to work, or how much money I make. Similarly, although I know what she does, I don’t know the name of the company she works for, its telephone number, physical address or online address, or even how much money she makes. I think she works nearby - Koenji, Shin-koenji, or possibly even Koiwa. I don’t know.
Our finances are completely separate. I have my stuff, and she has hers. My stuff is my business, and vice versa. Plus, my partner never asked / asks me for that information. If she did, I imagine I would probably tell her. But until then … I keep my private information private. I keep my secrets to myself.
You know, it’s not at all that I’m secretive, or that I’m an asshole. Truthfully, I certainly am an asshole. But that’s not the point here. What it’s mostly about is that I’m a private person. I believe in privacy. And believe it or not, privacy is private! That’s why it’s called that!
I find the suggestion that it’s normal for spouses automatically to share this kind of information is weird, grossly odd and offensive.
But I could be wrong.